YOU as the Guiding Light
We at Illumiknight believe mothers are lighthouses—steady, illuminating presences standing tall in their wisdom. Just as a lighthouse casts its beam, mothers light the way for their families while navigating their own journey of transformation. Lighthouses don’t shine constantly; they shine consistently, with a predictable rhythm. They are deeply rooted, most often founded on rock, symbolising grounded strength. Your values give you grounded strength, and evidence tells us that a life aligned with values contributes to wellbeing.
Values are deeply embedded within you, at your very core. What are your values? Respect, perhaps or kindness. What does your value look like and sound like in your partnership and in your home? Exploring your values with your partner and developing shared values gives you greater clarity and deeper meaning.
What if mothers put the word self in front of each value, self-respect, self-kindness. If respect matters, be clear about what that might look like in your relationship/s. Model it, recognise and acknowledge it, expect it. Your values and what you value are your deep why, they give purpose, clarity for boundaries, what’s okay and not okay, the ability to reduce mental load and help you make invisible work, visible. Your values may be, or look different to other’s values, it takes courage to stand alone at times.
If you value respect, why would you accept disrespect? If you value kindness, why would you accept your children or others treating you unkindly? Knowing and living your values provides a deeply embedded foundation for wellbeing. Perhaps set or reset some goals. Self-concordant goals are those aligned to your core interests, values, and beliefs and therefore increase the probability of success. Valuing your SELF is critical. Without self-worth any attempts at self-care will be almost impossible. Sheer determination and novelty might get you started however your values will sustain you.
Mothers lead the most important system we have, family. The greatest indicator of your child’s wellbeing is your own. Just as the lighthouse tapers towards the light source, hone your focus by asking, what will I do each and every day that will enable me to live my values, be well, grow and transform throughout this exciting, rewarding, and demanding journey.
“‘A value is something that gives us strength, something that is very important to us, something we feel very strongly about, something worth standing up for, something that gives our life meaning’.”